Theres nothing wrong with that. Maybe you would feel like you have one over on other people because you have I support this and I agree with this. Remember that 50 years ago it was men who mostly had the affairs and was generally accepted that wives take it because boys will be boys. I dont think anyone is saying (Im not) that a persons number is the /only/ factor is deciding whether or not to take someone seriously as relationship material, but it is /a/ factor, and a major one, for many men. Yeah, but it does and that's the way a lot of people think. hide ourselves in does not preclude that: it is a make or break answer. This is such a typical question. Judgment rules every single day in every aspect of life. Which is why so many will lie about there number. No one should be lied to in a relationship. If you actually have a problem with it, that's one thing. Not everyone is like me but some people are and you never know who you will fall in love with in the future. I guess it really doesnt matter. someone else. Oh Hell no!!! I dont think they should, but they will and that man will never know. Am I saying that women that have what would be considered a large number of partners should be shunned? You make a very good arguement and I like how you articulated it. PROGRAMAO. What if I were to continue with her and have kids? insert kylo ren meme here. before automatically being a jerk and walking away. You never know. If the number really didnt matter, couples could ask about it and If you are that Datson? @NATASHAYOU ARE CORRECTIT DOESNT MAKEONE BETTER BUT IT DOES MAKE YOU WISER THAN THE GIRL WHO HAS BEEN WITH 100 PLUS PARTNERS. Im not saying this is ok, or validating them telling a lie, but this is the reality. You are the choices you make and the life you live. They are always controlled and can never be trusted at all because they will get around and bang lots of men. Would you rather a girl lie to you or tell you the truth? Make Him Worship the Ground You Walk On! University of Virginia says it does matter if you want a happy marriage. They are also more secure with the idea that if one relationship ends they can easily find another. I completely disagree. So that we, too, can be raised with you on the last day! LOL. and you excel in other areas it can balance this out. *if you admit to regrets* which is the biggest of your life. What can So when a man does commit, he wanted to ensure that the woman he was investing his time and resources in was bearing his own children so that his genes were the ones being passed on and not other other mans child. They want to to be with just me and vice versa, I think its because Im that way. about you. Declines to tell their significant other, then it means that they are not open and willing to be honest about their passed. Most guys dont want to do that either. My guy has never even brought it up so thats how I know hes not insecure. That didnt bother me, because I dont really care. We are in our 60s and feel like teenagers. Wild oats = sewn. Dude, this toxic line of thinking is going to make you so miserable. No dice. Of course you agree. Yeahman, if I were you I'd just take this whole things easy and use the time to work on myself. I can tell how angry I made you, and your calling of names is cute, but unnecessary. It seems that its not the case. She came with a lot of baggage, extremely insecure and pushed a double standard into our relationship. but that is just my opinion and I do love old fashion women, Id like to personally add my input as I am going through an exact situation with my current girlfriend. While media still shames yet sells women. Women will always be attracted to a man that keeps scoring women It doesnt matter what you claim, what matters is social happenstance from evolution. You could play an important role in her life, and teach her how lovely a LTR can be. Look at that women and realise that being a slut is not what men want. My parents were the hippy free-spirit types who told me that I should enjoy and experience life and do what makes me happy. Tell me, what's the ideal number of people for your partner to have slept with before you? Others may have been dealing with some deep issues and did not know how to properly handle it. The commandment is that we shall not fornicate .male or female. But one thing is for sure, I definitely wont each my daughter to be like me! When they should love e themselves. When done, breath deeply,. In this day and age, very few women or men will be virgins when you marry them. This month marks the 20th anniversary of Elizabeth's return home and on this week's episode of All In, we speak with Chris Thomas who acted as spokesperson for the Smart Family throughout their entire experience in searching for Elizabeth. And any woman I choose not to do that because that is not what this discussion should be about. what associations are you making in regard to the fears and concerns you might have? JOGOS DE HOJE. I encourage you remain faithful as long as your in any relationship. last I will say is women can go abt sleeping, its okay if thats What u want Well life just got a whole lot better for you, because you've found what we all look . about their past. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Enter your email below to join the VIP list. I believe it is truly best. whether or not she has a(n) std(s)) is very important concerning the number of partners that shes had but if a woman tells a man that shes slept with 3 men and neglects to add the 0 at the end of that, shes being dishonest and that violates the principle of another post that you made (4 keys to starting and maintaining a successful relationship) previously. Their sexuality is not only welcomed, it is encouraged and exploited by media as well as sex-worker and sex-entertainment industries. If you express those feelings to her in a hurtful way (because they are abusive) she's gonna bail on you. We all spout platitudes about what our beliefs are, and often, these can be idealized versions of who we wish we were. Well I ask you one thing WHO GIVES UP THE HOLE. Its fucking difficult to deal with no matter how much you love them. Because most men are not comfortable, this is why many women lie about it. I hold men and women to the same standard. I also had trouble trusting guys when they would tell me how they felt or saying that they were only with me because I knew or at least I thought that when they werent having sex with me they had it elsewhere. Would you REALLY want to buy that car after you heard that? If you arent proud of your number when I asked by a potential life partner, you could be a slut. But she was still a really nice lady, and from what I hear pretty good at sex. Self-Confident. At this point a # seems like the least of my worries. Thank you, Lord, for what you have done that we couldnt do for ourselves. I honestly dont like having to interact with my gfs past partners so in the end this article is nice but if one doesnt want to marry a female who has slept around then these words are neither here nor there in reality. During this time in my life I was searching for love but going about it in the wrong way. You say you've only slept with one person. "If you are prepared to be the man she needs and you have a genuine connection with her, then all that other stuff really does not matter." The only men who have sexual power would be BILLIONARES and FAMOUS men.thats IT. Never thought at 39 there would be so many issues when going into a relationship but I am learning quickly. How about judging a woman by her mind, her intelligence and her kindness? You have married couples who though they love each other, they do not fully know, understand, and embraced the needs of the other. One of the things you notice is that seperate from the incels and terpers is a demographic of dudes who could get casual sex or FWB's but don't want them. Piggy-backing on your statements, the world would be a pretty boring, lame place if the only differences between men and women were sexual organs. You know, there are a lot of people who always try to talk HIM out of existence maybe because they're really HOPING that HE doesn't exist. Im dont want the mother of my children, the single person out of all of humanity that I choose to share the rest of my life with to have been used and ridden like the town bike. I dont think that women should be labeled as whores, hoes, or sluts simply based on a number. Anyone with a brain knows that a persons past is a huge reflection of themselves and that past actions can show a lot especially in regards to the human condition. Negative because men come in all different shapes and sizes so the wear and tear would never change when sleeping with the same male 100 times. a lot of double standards as usual in todays society yes maybe people are a bit too free or promiscuous but a number shouldnt affect you or eat you up inside and if it does could mean you missing out on a, sex and b, someone special. Trust me when I say articles like this or similar positions on this issue are not the real issue when it comes to women acting like men. I would rather be morally responsible than put another person through the consequences of my decisions. Which is funny because The more rare a commodity is the more valuable it becomes. Women lie about their past(and men know it) and Men in turn lie about love and marriage . If her vagina still makes you come who cares how loose or tight it is. number is half your age. HOWEVER, if the candidate was honest about their past and they were suitable, they stand as good a chance as any.. The red pill community has this notion that women are lesser but I haven't seen that too much in the more toned down PUA community. Sorry that I did not take the time to sift though all 240+ comments prior to posting my own. As promiscuous as men are! If you slept with a lot of people how exactly do you expect people to view you. To say she is damaged goods is a misnomer because you assume that her worth is completely controlled by her sexuality and how she uses it. I AM SORRY, AS WOMENWE MUST HOLD OURSELVES TO HIGHER STANDARDSWHEN WE BEGAN TO LOSE OUR MORALS AND ACT LIKE MEN IS WHEN WE STARTED TO BE MORE LIKELY TO GET SHOT THAN MARRIED. Have you heard of Google? We all have to learn to be more open and honest as well as more receptive and understanding when someone does open up to us. Im a small endowed male. Also remember that promiscuity at the end of the day has nothing to do with whether youll get an STD because all it takes is having sex with ONE person, who could be your significant other, that has an STD to transmit it to you. Give me the infected one having only 2 men rather than the clean one after 30 physical infections have cure infections in the soul dont . I until recently had felt like i had to end it with her, but as you said i am taking it one day at a time because i love her and she is a good person that had a shitty hand dealt to her. Hallelujah! and that he cannot get over my past even though I had everything he had been looking for. And, we've all sinned a lot. Whos gonna stick around for that? So I have to make the decision..do I want her after the wear and tear of 200 men?? Some religions cut off womens sensitive parts so that she will NOT experience pleasure. It assumes that all women have slept with more partners than I would find comfortable (far from correct), and that the only way I could end up happy and not lonely is to settle down and marry someone. This is definitely a hot topic. You say what happened to encouraging people to do better, but how is continuing the practice of judging people on their past a good thing? Also understand some people do not choose to have sex because they view it as not having respect for themselves some just like it and view it as a choice they have the right to make (we can debate whether that choice is right or wrong). While you are Dating or trying to marry a woman who have lived life and around 35+ age and then you realized you are just a number and may be not. Take that Woman, Do as I say and not as I do double standard mindset and flush it down the toilet! Now despite some of the accurate statements you made, the point is that women or people for that matter are not always the same person they once were. spoken likea girl who has slept with a lot men. confines of marriages, or at least committed, loving relationships at the Excessive promiscuity is linked directly to narcissism and mental instability. Im sure /your/ marriage will be different though. No problem and trust me I will. To be patient with you and This is a touchy subject.. Everyone is different. And she is ten times prettier with larger breasts and better complected, better hair, better teeth, more intelligent, etc His wife would feel intimidated and feel she can not compete especially if the other woman dumped him and he had been in love with her. she has slept with in the past as evidence for if she is someone to be Given that correlation I can understand why if a man knows thatshes got more points than Wilt Chamberlain, he chooses not to waste his time because chances are they wont see eye to eye. I would just say that the specific number wasnt the real issue in your case. My ex-husband of 7 years was very well endowed and my current significant other is very much under-endowed, but the sex is just as enjoyable, if not more so. Ive been through it, luckily with no children involved, and Ive known others whove gone through. You can keep the sluts for yourself I willdefinitelygo for the classy ones! A man with emotional baggage or self esteem issues cannot believe that a woman with past relationships can be committed to loving only him. See, I can understand a man deciding not to be with that woman because their views and values dont line up. I dont want to hate on the people that made mistakes, because we can always change, but you are right on point. Nope that s*** is nasty cant be with a girl with a body count higher than 4, You made some good points but i dont think its fair to tell someone which criteria they can use when deciding on a mate or not some use someones number of partners while others use looks and others use certain personality traits etc. Like that song of the 70s that said, so many men so little time how can i choose. Probably not, but its still a shock every time I think about it. But what about the woman who is completely secure with herself, single, and likes to have sex. Know why? Judging right away could end up getting in the way of an opportunity to know a really great person. Some women do grow up but some still have the need to still sleep around even if they are married so over looking there past sexual habits and number of partners could lead down the road of heartach and waisted time along with a bad divorce and if kids are involved then a life time of drama and kids being neglected physically and finacially and Im speaking from experiance cause we talked about her past and I truly though she would make a good wife but it truly wasnt out of her system. I never agreed with the cant turn a hoe into a housewife Because a man being a player is just a nice word for manwhore. I mean, you dont really know what was going on in their life at that point either. Awesome! And women can go a long way in updating the image of women in society. A possible promiscuous woman is a very valid concern for a man potentially wanting her as a girl friend or more. The fluids can be washed off easily by men, however the mans fluids or remnants of it can remain inside the woman for years before it can leave her system. Several promiscuous women have said to me that they could be faithful when married and I think that they would. Also consider that all people who engage in a lot of casual sex have higher rates of depression and low self-esteem and lower rates of life satisfaction. Many of the modern women want to be as promiscuous as they please and then expect men not to judge them for it. So your ahead in a sense. All in all if you truly love someone I think it shouldnt matter. Today, the women are the same. I really dont care whether you believe the truth of the matter or not, as I dont care whether you believe in evolution, gravity, or anything else. Cheers. No, it can most certainly simply be about the actual number. As for what would a non-spiritual person be waiting for, well I dont want to give my future post away. 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